I know Halloween isn’t until next month but I felt the need to talk about Vampires. I’m not talking about the broody, sparkly vampires of Twilight, but about those vampires that appear in our lives everyday. Those Energy Vampires show up in our lives not to drain us of our blood but of our energy.
Energy Vampires come in all shapes and sizes, but they have one thing in common. They use their stories to take energy from us. Have you been around someone who has drama in their lives constantly? Even a broken fingernail is a reason to plunge them into negativity. There are also those Energy Vampires who are very passive aggressive. They still have an undercurrent of negativity in their lives. Often for them it is the “poor pitiful me”.
You might ask if they are aware that they are Energy Vampires. I can honestly say from my experience that the majority are unaware. Most people are really unaware of their energy or where it is flowing and what it is doing. I think they just recognize that they feel better after talking or engaging with people. Of course, those who they have engaged with feel drained.
We will always come in contact with Energy Vampires. Although a necklace of garlic might keep people away, a true Energy Vampire will still find a way into your energy. How do you handle an Energy Vampire without seeming uncaring. One thing is please do not feed into the Energy Vampires story. If they say their world is coming to an end then simply reply that you are sorry. Don’t add more fuel to the story by asking them to explain more. Change the subject to something more positive. If they won’t let up then you will want to set a boundary. Let them lovingly know that you want to help them focus more on the positive so that you both feel better. Sometimes they may try to pull you into situations that are not yours to deal with. In that case you may want to tell them that you don’t feel comfortable with that and then change the subject or remove yourself. It can all be done lovingly.
Energy Vampires can literally have you feeling anger, frustration, depression, and even physically drained. And it’s not even your issues! We are all at risk of Energy Vampires and we are at risk of being Energy Vampires ourselves. So let’s check how we are interacting with others. Are we draining the energy of those around us or are we encouraging and inspiring those around us? Please note that it is OK to vent and share your positive and your negative stories with those who love you but be aware of how much energy you give to those stories and try to quickly change your perspective about the story. Don’t continually tell the story and not do anything to try and change it to a more positive tale.
Take care of yourself and take care that you don’t become an Energy Vampire yourself!
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